Here is a reframing that I’m working on this week:

Instead of asking myself, “What should I do for [this person]?” I’m working on asking “What does [this person] need from me?”

So instead of asking:

“How can I help this client?”

I’m asking

“What does this client need from me?”

And at home, instead of asking:

“What should I do to be a better father?”

I’m asking:

“What does my son need from me?”

When the subject of the sentence shifts, different answers emerge.