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10 Questions for a DIY Emotional Intelligence Assessment


10 Questions for a DIY Emotional Intelligence Assessment

Susan Drumm shares an article that explains how to assess your own emotional intelligence.

First of all, I know what you’re thinking. “Susan, is it even possible to assess your own emotional intelligence? How am I going to convince my friends and coworkers to be really honest about my EQ?”

Is this the same as asking people how your pants look? Or what people really think about your fruitcake recipe?  

Well, I’ve got good news and bad news.

The bad news is that when you do your own 360 Feedback (think:  emotional intelligence assessment), you’re likely to get about 20% – 50% of the truth.

It’s extremely unlikely that your assistant is going to detail every single awkward thing that you do. Your friend probably isn’t going to give you the unvarnished truth about all of your annoying quirks.

But the good news is that just the fact that you’re interested in doing an emotional intelligence assessment shows that you have higher-than-average emotional intelligence.

And 20% – 50% honesty about your EQ is much better than nothing and much better than the nonexistent feedback you currently have!

If you’d like a 100% honest emotional intelligence assessment from a professional, I encourage you to consider a professional 360 assessment. The insights you’ll discover will create an opening to “up-level” your career and even your life.

But if you want to test the waters, how do you DIY an emotional intelligence assessment?

Share the following questions with 6 to 8 people —  a mix of coworkers, clients, friends and family. Assure them that you want them to be honest and that you won’t be mad if they share less-than-totally-positive responses with you.

In fact, you would prefer that they list some things you could be working on. Share that you truly want to grow and the only way you can do that is to get feedback.

(And then don’t get triggered when they share less-than-totally-positive responses with you! Get curious and be receptive!)


Key points include:

  • Identifying blindspots
  • Improving relationships
  • Strengths to be leveraged